An attack can happen anywhere at anytime! Everyday situations like walking across a store parking lot at night is a prime example, just because they might have video cameras around doesn’t deter every attacker, remember, desperate people do desperate things! Be on you guard always!
Getting the groceries late at
night after work had never been an issue for Susan Randall 48 of San Diego
California until one night when things really took a turn for the worse.
“I always tried to park my car
under a light even if it meant walking a little farther to the store, so I can
say I was aware of possible danger but never expected it to happen to me at
“Then one night as I was walking
back to my car, I was approached by a young man who punched me in the stomach
so hard I immediately doubled up and fell to the ground in agony! He ran away
with my purse. I could sense he had bad intentions but as my hands were both
tied up holding bags of groceries, I could do nothing to defend myself. So, I
guess you could say I was ready for it but then again I wasn’t because I couldn’t
get my hands free in time to stop the attack.”
The whole incident was captured
on the store security cameras in the parking lot and a 23-year-old was charged
with the attack by local police two days later. He was a well-known drug addict
with a string of violent attacks to his name. He received a 6-month prison
Susan said, “I actually feel
sorry for the young man resorting to such levels, I hope when he’s released
from prison, he can sort himself out and make something of his life.”
Susan lost her purse and had a few
credit cards charged up by the attacker and of course the cash in her purse was
gone too. It might be very inconvenient having to replace those items but at
least they can be replaced, your life however cannot!
Leaving the store late at night can be a potentially
dangerous situation, like Susan did in this story always try to park under a
light if possible, the lighter the better for your safety.
Try to have one hand free as this will give
you a fighting chance should you be attacked, if not carry one bag with
something you can swing at an attacker, imagine getting hit around the head by
a bag containing a frozen chicken? There’s an instant weapon!
One thing to remember is to carry your car
keys with the ignition key between your fingers as this is generally a larger
key and can be used to great effect if attacked by jabbing at the attacker. If
you don’t have a car key carry a pen with your thumb over the top, it`s light
and can make a great weapon if needed again by jabbing at your attacker.
This story is a great example of needing to be situationally aware of both the surroundings and people around you. Be ready for an attack, chances are it won’t happen but if it does, you’ll have a much better chance of remaining safe.
Have you experienced an incident like this in a store parking lot at night? If so, were you able to defend yourself? Is this something you can honestly say you`d be prepared for if it did happen?
In today’s blog we look at the world of over training.
While it`s true many people don’t workout hard enough it`s also true many
workout way too hard and too often, leaving them bewildered as to why there’s
little or no progress.
No matter what your chosen activity may be, from
bodybuilding to self-defense to kickboxing or whatever; it can reach the point
of becoming an obsession at times leading to overtraining, learn to listen to
your body, it will tell you when you reach that stage.
It`s a real issue, after all, we can over-eat,
over-drink, over-sleep and over-anything really! As they say moderation is the
key and any physical training is no different.
The symptoms are like those of jet
lag, long term illness, poor nutrition, etc. just basically feeling run
down and no longer motivated to complete your workouts like before when you
felt on top of the world with endless energy.
personally found this out when I got hooked on lifting weights, it was my whole
life! I had to work out twice a day seven days a week without fail! The very
thought of not doing that was unthinkable! Even though I was so sore it was a
chore to get out of bed without screaming!
couldn’t understand why my gains were so slow in coming, I mean, I’m working
out so much so why am I still wearing a medium sized shirt? surely the more I
work out the more muscle I should have, right? Wrong! Doesn’t work that way at
day I get lucky and meet a guy in the gym who informs me I’m over training and
need to cut back to three or four sessions a week if I really want to develop
muscle and strength, and also pay attention to my diet. I never considered I
was doing too much and being a `gym addict` now I’m worrying about what I will
do on my many days off from my second home, the gym!
he looked like he knew what he was talking about, so I took his word for it and
did as he said, and like magic I start developing muscles without the previous
pain, now I’m experiencing a nice soreness that isn’t as severe as before. Actually,
not pain at all.
was then getting to train with lots of experienced people all offering great
advice, and soon I was in the best shape since I started and soon realized the
mistakes I made in the beginning, mainly overtraining!
all those who feel addicted to the gym etc. just relax and take a day off once
in a while, it will help you come back refreshed and ready to go again.
from the symptoms we went over earlier in this blog, overtraining can lead to
injury such as muscle damage due to insufficient rest between sessions. I`ve
known many people who tore muscles through this mistake lifting weights and
many who pulled muscles kickboxing through this mistake.
at it this way, if you tare or pull a muscle chances are you won’t be training
at all for quite a while. The `No pain no gain` attitude can get you injured
line is this, listen to your body, your body knows the signs before you do. But,
are you going to listen? That`s the question only you can answer.
Have you ever over trained to the point of losing
interest? Or have you ignored the signs and carried on and got injured as a
result? Not everyone will admit to this, I did though, can you?
In todays blog we take another
look at how someone can be at risk while doing their regular job duties and
also how self-defense can help prevent such dangers.
When Joanne Camden 35 of
Portland Oregon had an appointment to show a client around a new house, she had
no reason to think it would be different from the many other occasions she had
done this service. Today however, was going to really be her nightmare come
Joanne explains “I had arranged
to meet a couple of newlyweds at a brand-new house that had only just been
built the previous week and this was the first house to be completed so was
quite a lonely area.”
“I got there early and went
through the rooms making sure I had my presentation how I wanted it, nothing
looks worse than you are acting like you’ve never seen the house before, so I
always like to do this first, it`s more professional and gives the client more
confidence in my ability.”
“All was well until the guy
showed up without his wife claiming she didn’t feel too good, at the time the
alarm bells weren’t ringing but probably should have really as it’s kind of
strange that only one would come to see a new house, kind of an important thing
to do together being newlyweds you would think, I mean, usually they’d cancel
and reschedule so both can see it. Come to think of it I had never spoke to his
wife, only him, she was never available.”
“As I was showing the guy
around, he seemed perfectly normal until we got to the back of the house where
the bedroom would be, as we entered the room, he closed the door behind us
locking it. Before I could say anything, he was immediately on me like
lightning! Pushed me to the ground hitting me then raped me. I was no match for
his strength and couldn’t stop him, I tried but just couldn’t.”
Joanne was sexually assaulted;
the attacker ran off but was quickly caught by local police once she called
them. The security cameras showed him running out of the house.
It turned out the guy wasn’t
even married, just a scammer with a history of violent attacks. He is currently
Joanne suffered cuts and bruises
and needed counseling after her horrific ordeal.
This story really shows how
dangerous certain jobs can be. Most of the time it’s not like that of course,
but the unthinkable can and does happen.
A little self-defense knowledge
really could have helped here and could have prevented the terrible ending. It
was interesting when Joanne said her attacker was too strong for her to stop
the attack, the beauty of self-defense of course is the fact you don’t have to
be strong to use it effectively as it’s all about technique not strength.
This story had red flags all
over it! Meeting a client in such a remote area was never a good idea, possibly
a co-worker or friend could have gone for back up. The fact the guy came
without his wife and she was never available was a big red flag.
Easy to say afterwards of course
but better preparation could have saved the day here. Like the saying goes;
prevention is better than the cure.
Are you doing a job where you might unintentionally be putting yourself at risk by meeting strangers? If so, consider taking up self-defense, it could prevent you from attack. it might be all you have and all you need!
You might well be wondering why this story is included
in this blog site as it’s not exactly based around any experience in the gym.
However, I didn’t know this at the time, but this was
actually the start to my kickboxing career, and apart from that, it’s funny and
short! That’s three reasons it’s included, and the perfect story to start my
kickboxing career off with, read on…
One of my earliest school memories-apart from the
tedious day to day life of everyday boring education, that was strictly
governed by teachers who thrived on intimidation and bullying tactics, most of
whom I`m sure probably wouldn’t even
qualify for the position nowadays-was going to some kind of crappy circus
pantomime show. I was around 7 or 8 years old at the time.
So, all the school kids are packed onto several buses
and it was chaos as everyone is excited about being away from school for one
day. The teachers have their work cut out today controlling this lot! We`re off
for the day and heading over to a neighboring city to see some kind of circus
show or whatever it was, no one really knows, and no one really cares! It’s a
day off from school that’s all we know, and that’s good enough for us.
When we get there the show starts soon after, nothing
too special really, a variety of singing (out of tune) and acting (don’t give
up your day jobs, please)! Also, jugglers (who can’t catch), magicians (who are
anything but magic), and clowns (who look pure evil)! Etc. etc. basically
crappy second-rate performers who are very amateurish and haven’t a chance at
ever becoming anything close to professional, amazing how I can judge someone’s
potential at my early age don’t you think? As if I know anything! But I know
it’s not very impressive, but hey! It’s better than being at school that’s for
As the show is in full swing now, to my horror, not to
mention worry, a clown seems to be looking at me like he’s picking me out for
something, and as I’m sat on the front row I’m expecting him to involve me in
this ridiculous show at some stage. Please God! Don’t let him pick me for this
show, I’m thinking to myself. This is the first time I realize I have a dislike
for clowns and very soon a love for kickboxing. Unknown to me at this time, my
kickboxing career is about to be launched in a matter of seconds!
The clown is now walking around carrying two buckets
of water constantly looking at me, he puts both buckets down and picks one of
them back up and is now heading directly for me and laughing like crazy as he
launches the entire contents of the bucket all over me!
Expecting to get soaked in water I’m sat there all
curled up on my seat like a little wimp, resembling some kind of frightened
little mouse as little pieces of paper float all around me! Unknown to me the
clown had switched the bucket of water for another one filled with harmless
paper similar to confetti that you find at weddings, and now the spotlight is
on me and I’m the laughing stock of the whole theater, not to mention the whole
school! This idiot clown has made me look stupid and it’s time for payback!
Now, around this time Bruce Lee movies were all the
rage, and all the kids thought they were Kung-Fu experts (me included). So,
without thinking I quickly jumped out of my seat and launched a beautiful front
kick straight into his clown groin! Bull’s-eye! He goes down like he’s been
shot. For a few seconds there’s total silence-no one can believe what I just
did, least of all me-quickly to be replaced by even more hysterical laughter
from the crowd than before! I’m now the star of the show and looking down on my
defeated crippled clown enemy shouting “Let’s hear you laugh now mister clown,
not so funny is it!” no response from the clown though as he rolled around the
stage clutching his privates.
As he was out for the count, I was stood over him like
a referee in a boxing match shouting out 1-2-3 and so on, the loudest cheer was
when I counted to 8 and I had won, with my arms held high I felt like Rocky! I
was thinking of kicking him again when I felt a hand suddenly grip my ear,
which was soon twisted to the point of feeling like it was being ripped off my
head (yes, they could do this back then and get away with it, imagine that
happening nowadays? I don’t think so). Anyway, I was soon ejected from the
theater by a less than impressed teacher and given a standing ovation by the
whole theater! Well, all the kids anyway! Then escorted back on the bus and
made to write out 500 lines, can’t remember exactly what now, but some crap
such as `I must not assault innocent people in the future` I also added “That
doesn’t include stupid guilty clowns.” which got me in even more trouble.
After the show the teachers wanted me to personally
apologize to the idiot clown, but he backed out of it claiming he was too
shaken and refused to see me ever again. Oh well, another victory to me! For a
few days afterwards, back at school I was the main talking point, and some kind
of hero with the kids which didn’t last too long, as it soon became old news.
The clown deserved it for making me look stupid! Ever since I’ve hated clowns and loved kickboxing, an interesting and very early start to my kickboxing career to say the least!
Do you have an unusual or amusing story that lead you to take up whatever you do today? If so, I`d love to hear it.
In todays blog we turn our
attention to another example of how a little self-defense knowledge could have
prevented an attack during an everyday situation. Remember, self-defense
doesn’t make you invincible, but can give you a fighting chance and sometimes
that’s the only chance you need to survive.
Lisa Davies 46 of Denver
Colorado had always enjoyed looking for deals online as opposed to fighting the
crowds in the stores on big sale days such as Black Friday etc. and buying and
selling online had become an enjoyable hobby for her. She never expected this
hobby to turn into a dangerous activity.
“I had always enjoyed looking
for deals online and making a few bucks here and there on sites like eBay and
Craigslist, a profitable hobby you could say. I get to meet many nice people
too as part of the fun is getting out and about going to houses to check items
out and pick them up.”
“It never entered my head that
doing this could be dangerous in the slightest! But after this experience it
has totally changed my outlook on my hobby and indeed people in general.”
“I had called a guy about an
antique lamp he had online and arranged a time to go and check it out, it was a
great deal and I was really excited about heading over there. Part of the
thrill of this hobby is coming across a great deal knowing you can sell it on
for twice as much as you’re paying for it.”
“When I arrived at the address
the guy was very charming and polite, he explained he had just had
back-surgery, and would I mind helping him get the lamp out of the garage. Not
a problem I thought.”
“This was the moment things
suddenly turned very ugly, as I followed him into the garage, he suddenly
closed the garage door and before I knew it, he grabbed a hold of me and with
some force he knocked me to the ground and was immediately on top of me, so
much for his back-surgery story!”
“Thankfully the only thing that
saved me from being sexually assaulted was the fact he couldn’t perform,
frustrated by his inability he chose to beat me instead. Now call me naïve but
this totally shocked me that this could ever happen to me.”
“I managed to escape and call
the police who came and arrested the guy. I had a narrow escape and learned my lesson;
I had a few bruises and was badly shaken by this nasty incident but otherwise I
Since then I only visit houses
with friends, never alone like this ever again. Can’t be too careful these days
it would seem.”
little self-defense knowledge could certainly have helped stop the attack when
it started but this is a case of where being situationally aware could have
prevented Lisa from being put at risk by her own actions.
only was it dangerous to go to a stranger’s house alone but to follow the guy
into his garage really increased the risk of attack very highly which of course
was exactly what happened.
go to a stranger’s house alone, if you must go at all for whatever reason then
always have a friend with you and tell someone else the address you’re going
to, that way someone will know where you are. Be careful of your surroundings
and the people around you. This is being situationally aware, you first line of
she learned her lesson without being sexually assaulted, she was still attacked
and received a few bruises and was shaken by her ordeal, but this could have
been so much worse.
After reading this, has this happened to you or someone you know? If so, were you able to escape unharmed? Have you put yourself at risk without first thinking of the possible dangers?
Being aware of your surroundings and the people around you can prevent unnecessary danger. Do not put yourself in danger!
The whole idea behind self-defense is not to see your attacker as an
enemy that must be destroyed, but rather the goal is to ensure your own safety
and get away from any potentially dangerous situation. That may well mean
fighting to achieve this, but there are other ways that can work just as well.
There is nothing cowardly about avoiding a fight if
possible, actually it makes sense to avoid unnecessary conflict. After all, you
cannot get hurt or injured from a fight that never happened, but many times
peoples egos will get in the way of this and they’ll see avoiding a fight as a
sign of weakness and because of this they’ll fight when they don’t have to and
possibly get injured.
I’m sure you’ll remember your dear old mom telling you as a
young kid about not talking to strangers, getting in cars with strangers and
walking down dark alleys alone, yet so many people forget this kind of advice
years later and put themselves in unnecessary danger.
Many victims of assaults say afterwards that they saw it coming,
so the problem is not being able to spot the danger they have put themselves
in, but rather, unable to act on it once they see it coming. The thinking of
`that kind of thing happens to other people, not me` is a very dangerous
attitude to have.
The lack of common sense in avoiding these potentially
dangerous situations is very evident by the choices people make. For example,
Friday or Saturday after the bars close can be a huge area of concern, fast
food joints are where you’ll see many fights, the drunks are out in force and
many looking for trouble!
Poorly lit or lonely areas are very hazardous at night,
some are well known and some even have a bad reputation, but yet people will
blindly ignore these red flags if it means getting home a few minutes early by
walking down a dark lane as a short cut, many times fueled by alcohol their
brains are telling them “It’ll be ok, no problem just this once” and it might
be ok just this once, but you can definitely reduce your risk of danger by
avoiding these areas. Just a little thought can save you a lot of trouble.
Quite often, you might encounter a gang of teenagers
hanging out on the street corner at night who are doing just that and don’t
intend anyone any harm, but if you feel uneasy about walking past them then
don’t, seek another route to take.
It is very easy to tell if someone could be trouble by
their demeanor and attitude, if your instincts are warning you it’s for a good
reason, don’t hang around if you feel threatened, if it’s at all possible to leave
before any confrontation can happen, then it’s best to do exactly that. Always
be scanning your horizon for possible dangers. Think ahead, be one step ahead
of any possible danger.
If someone is approaching you looking for trouble for
whatever purpose, you cannot always predict what the potential attacker is
looking for, but one thing you can be sure of is this-it’s not a fight they’re
looking for, they are not expecting you to fight back because they are simply
looking for a victim who they believe would be easy prey. If you happen to be
of small build, then you could have a problem.
Even the aggressors who just want to hit someone for no
good reason are looking to get their joy at minimal cost to themselves, if you
appear confident they will most likely see you as a bigger threat to them than
they are to you and move on to the next person hoping they will provide an
easier target. Similar actions to that of a bully who we know are nothing more
Now, one of the interesting things of knowing self-defense
is simply no one can tell what you’re capable of doing just by simply looking
at your size, an aggressor is highly unlikely to try and assault a bodybuilder
because of the sheer size of the person and the aggressor would naturally
assume him to be stronger than he is even though a bodybuilder might not know
how to fight, he’s a huge visual deterrent. As we already said he’s nothing
more than a bully so wouldn’t think of attacking someone bigger and stronger
than himself, but a martial arts expert can come in any shape imaginable which
can be to your advantage or not depending on the potential attacker’s
perspective of you.
One of my favorite stories regarding this matter was when
my old sensei was walking back to his car with groceries one night, the guy was
in his late 50`s, little over 5 feet tall with a beer belly!
Sounds like an easy target, right? That’s what three thugs
thought as they jumped him, what they didn’t know was… he was a 9th
degree black belt in Japanese Ju-Jitsu! Three thugs went to hospital very
quickly! My old sensei said he had a bit of fun with them which involved
various punches, kicks, choke holds and throws then called an ambulance for
them and took off leaving them feeling very sorry for themselves groaning on
Lesson learned the hard way! Just because someone is
smaller and outnumbered doesn’t mean they will play the part of the victim.
Now, this was an extreme case in that not too many people would possess the
expertise, courage and confidence to take on three people bigger than
themselves and defeat them with ease.
The one thing you must never allow to happen under any
circumstances is for an aggressor to take you elsewhere. Do not allow yourself
to be driven away anywhere! Your chances of survival just took a massive blow
if you are now in the aggressor’s choice of location and you can be sure
whatever he has in store for you is seriously bad.
Have you ever made a bad choice and put yourself in danger such as taking a short cut down a dark alley just to save a few minutes getting home? If so, did you manage to avoid trouble? In general, can you honestly say you’re situationally aware?
A person’s body language can often give warning and prepare you for a possible confrontation but always be prepared for the sudden unprovoked attack!
Confrontations even between friends can suddenly erupt over petty
things, basically a different opinion over something can easily trigger this
and if alcohol is involved things could get out of hand pretty
The key is to not allow yourself to get drawn into this type of
situation by remaining calm and by never putting yourself directly in front of
someone who is clearly acting in an aggressive manner and looking for a
confrontation. Keep your distance and hopefully the situation will be defused quickly.
The usual pattern of behavior for this situation to start is by an
exchange of words which can become insulting and threatening, nearly always
accompanied by arm waving and gesturing and even throwing objects that might be
within reach before coming to physical blows.
Here’s the three main types of confrontations you may have seen or
experienced yourself at some time, all are pretty common.
1) An individual who is gesturing for you to
“have a go” from a distance is usually a sign his bark is worse than his bite,
in other words he’s more of an exhibitionist rather than a fighter. Unless you
say something that really hits a nerve making him suddenly attack you he’ll
probably just be satisfied with a barrage of insults then head off to tell his
friends how he won a fight that never even happened! A frustrating situation,
but a far better outcome however than an actual fight. Words can hurt for sure,
but so can getting beaten senseless.
2) Occasionally a confrontation can really
escalate, when someone not only talks bad but actually gets closer to you and
starts pushing and grabbing then this is a very serious threat indeed. Once
this has reached that point it will keep escalating till you either do
something to make him back off or an outside intervention ends the situation,
but at this point simply hoping for the best is not going to help you at all,
the talking stage is well and truly over and it’s now time for action!
3) You might find yourself in a confrontation
with someone who skips all the above and goes straight into violence against
you. At this point anything goes as you have no idea how far your attacker may
take things, he may be satisfied with hitting you a couple of times, but
equally he may be satisfied with knocking you down and kicking you in the head
while you are helpless on the ground. Passersby may decide to join in and help
you, then again they may completely ignore the situation, it can and does
happen. The point is once this has reached the physical level you have no way
to know just how bad it might get, your life may be in danger at this point.
So, to recap here are briefly the three main types of
confrontations we just talked about…
1) Someone who is all talk and has little
intention of actually fighting, you are unlikely to be at too much risk from
this type of individual apart from being called a few bad names.
2) Someone who takes the confrontation to the
next level by pushing and grabbing. You are at possible risk from this type of
individual unless you protect yourself from the possible attack that is very
close to happening.
3) Someone who goes straight into the
violence without any kind of warning, you are at most risk from this type of
individual. You have no time to be on your guard here as you are at severe risk
from an unprovoked attack, the surprise of which can result in serious injury.
Most of the people that like to start fights really have no idea
how to fight in the first place! Many are nothing more than bullies picking a
fight with someone who doesn’t stand much chance of beating them relying on
aggression and intimidation which can work in their favor simply because
untrained people don’t know how to handle those two things and are basically
beaten before a punch is thrown.
Although anything can happen in a fight there’s a definite trend
to what actually does happen, the buildup, such as the posturing and threats is
very common as is the grabbing and pushing. Once the fighting actually starts,
you’ll nearly always see the big overhead swinging punch with the stronger hand
from the person throwing it proving they know nothing about fighting at all!
Also wrestling on the ground is another favorite it seems. Real fights are
certainly nowhere near as exciting or interesting as the ones you see in the
Kung-Fu movies, but of course they are not real.
Don’t react like a victim. How you react to a potential
confrontation is very important. There is nothing wrong with being polite and
considerate as long as you make it very clear that you are choosing to be civil
rather than being coerced by the aggressor. It is possible to head off many potentially
serious problems by taking a stand early on and making it clear that you have
no intentions of accepting the situation that could develop.
Deterrence. This stand can take one of two forms, which are best
described as deterrence and de-escalation. Deterrence is quite a bold response,
even though it doesn’t have to be aggressive or rude, basically you’re making a
bold statement saying enough is enough! The only problem with this being if
you’re not a match physically for the potential attacker it could be like
waving a red flag to a bull leading to an escalation of the situation.
De-Escalation. This is just the opposite approach, you are trying
to appeal to his good nature, assuming he has one that is. Instead of making a
bold response you try to calm things down or make an excuse for why you are
backing off, this might mean you are apologizing for something you haven’t even
done in the first place! But if it ends the possible threat then take that to
be a victory. De-Escalation can be a good strategy as it allows the potential
attacker to go on his way believing he made you stand down in fear of him.
However, many confrontations are fueled by nothing more than over inflated egos
so this strategy could backfire on you by pushing him down onto a position in
which his ego forces him to attack you. Think wisely before using either of
these two strategies.
During a confrontation always make sure you know where your
potential attacker’s hands are at all times, while you can see them the biggest
threat is receiving a punch but when their hands disappear under clothes
there’s a good chance they will produce a weapon such as a knife. If this
happens don’t wait to see what they surprise you with! The moment their hand
goes under clothing act fast! Lunge forward jamming their arm against their
body while delivering a barrage of strikes with your other hand. A knife threat
will be much easier to deal with while it’s still concealed under clothing, but
once drawn and out in the open the danger level has been significantly
If you are facing an attacker who has you at gun point, you are in
a whole new level of danger! No matter how good you are at martial arts you
aren’t going to dodge a bullet! It’s not like in the movies where the hero
avoids the bullets with his lightning fast reflexes, try this in the real world
and you will be seriously injured or killed in seconds!
If you are facing someone at gunpoint, then you are most likely
about to be robbed. Whatever possessions the attacker wants give them up
immediately! Remember, your attacker doesn’t have to be close to you for you to
be hurt with a gun. This isn’t the time to play the hero dodging bullets like
on some movies, doesn’t work that way at all.
Bottom line is this, your life is seriously on the line! No matter
how valuable items may be for the most part they can be replaced. Your life
Have you been the victim of a robbery at gunpoint? Have you experienced any of the confrontations we covered in this story? If so, were you able to defuse the situation with passive gestures or did it escalate to a fight?
For todays blog we turn our attention to a profession that may involve danger at some stage; the world of the security guard. The following is a true story that shows how self-defense could possibly have helped prevent serious injury.
When security guard John Dolby
45 of Riverhead New York had completed his last patrol of the evening he
settled down in his security cabin with a book not expecting to be disturbed for
the remaining few hours of his shift. This evening however, it didn’t quite
work that way.
“After I had received the last delivery truck each night I was instructed under no circumstances to allow anyone else to enter through the gates, this was a firing offense to do so, so naturally I never did, a few tried it but I never let them in no matter how angry they became, after all this is my job and I don’t make the rules. Actually, that’s what I would tell them. Some would accept it and leave, others would argue and call me all the names under the sun.”
“Anyway, this particular night I heard some noise outside, the worrying thing was it wasn’t outside the gates but inside. I knew there was only me there as the short night shift crew had already left, well, I thought there was only me there!”
“I grabbed my flashlight and
radio and went to check it out, immediately I was surrounded by three guys, one
grabbed my radio before I could even shine the flashlight at them. All I
remember was being ferociously beaten to the ground under a barrage of punches!
The last thing I could feel was them taking the keys off my belt before they
kicked me unconscious.”
John was found by the day shift
workers who arrived a couple of hours later who knew something wasn’t right
when they couldn’t get in the gate, and with no security guard visible they got
When a manager arrived and
unlocked the gates, they immediately called an ambulance and the cops once they
discovered John unconscious on the ground.
He had sustained a broken arm,
broken nose, broken cheek bone, severely bruised and swollen eyes and several
broken ribs after this vicious attack which was caught on a security camera but
the attackers wore black coats with hoods over their faces and got away with
thousands of dollars’ worth of stolen goods and were never caught as it was
impossible to identify any of them. John quit his job after the attack.
this story self-defense might not have saved John from the vicious attack but
it would have given him a fighting chance. Possibly his injuries would have
been no way near as severe with just a little self-defense training allowing
him to fight back.
you’re surrounded by up to three attackers the odds are seriously not in your
favor at all no matter what you can do, self-defense doesn’t make you invincible,
but it does give you a fighting chance, and sometimes that’s all you need to
surprising John quit his job after this brutal attack. I mean, who could
honestly say they’d feel safe after what happened and carry on? Not too many
I’ve talked to several security guards and surprisingly enough, security guards are given very little or no self-defense training at all. I think that’s something companies should consider providing as just a little self-defense knowledge could be a life-saver.
Any security guards read this? If so I`d be interested to hear your opinion on this story, is this typical? Have you been attacked while on the job, if so, were you able to defend yourself and escape serious injury?
For many of us the last 3 months of the year can be pretty tough with these 3 events or holidays leading to eating and drinking in excess. Plus it`s not the greatest time of year weather wise either, not the most motivating time for sure with early dark nights, rain, cold and even snow. Unless of course you like those things, but I certainly don’t.
October comes around and you’re
feeling out of shape so decide to do something about it, but your mind is
asking you what`s the point of starting now? May as well wait until the New
Year now, but why? By then you’ll be even more out of shape than you already
Doesn’t make sense, but I`m sure you
have known many people who have waited till the New Year to start working out
and dieting under the charade named New Year`s resolution, it usually lasts 2-3
weeks when they suddenly discover it’s not what they really wanted because it`s
a whole lifestyle change that`s required, most aren’t prepared to give up the
bad one for a better healthier one.
There’s three main events to survive up till to the New Year that can seriously set someone back to the point of no return leaving them in way worse shape than they need to be, that’s even before the New Year even arrives!
This is the start of the downfall
for many people. How many times have you bought a big bag of Halloween candy
weeks before the event? How many times have you snacked on that big bag of
Halloween candy demolishing it before the event? Then you find yourself buying
yet another bag because now you are feeling guilty that you have nothing to
hand out to the little kids that will be coming around. You ate all their
The chances are second time around you have purchased a bigger bag or even two bags of Halloween candy because now you are craving the sugar like crazy and it’s all downhill from this moment on, after the last kids have been around you are left with a bowl full of candy that you will steadily snack on leading up to the next event.
Three weeks after Halloween and Thanksgiving rolls around which means lots more food! Usually turkey is most people’s favorite choice of meat, one slight problem with that is of course turkey contains tryptophan which seems to make you sleepy, I have read several reports that turkey doesn’t contain any more tryptophan than other meats but how many times have you ate your Thanksgiving meal and just fell asleep afterwards? You have no desire or energy to walk off that big meal and of course you have lots of turkey to snack on leading up to the next event.
By the time Christmas has arrived
you’ve tricked yourself into thinking everything will be fine, a little more
turkey and excessive eating then it’s the New Year and it’s time for you to
start working out and dieting…or is it? A few obstacles to get around before
You have several parties to attend
with lots of drinking and eating to be done, after all, it’s Christmas, and
this is what we do right? The works party, a friend`s party
and another friend’s party etc. everyone wants to party at Christmas it seems.
After surviving all three of these
events you have most likely gained a few extra pounds plus your mind is much
less likely to respond positively when you do start exercising. You are much
more out of shape now than you were three months ago when you bought that first
bag of Halloween candy.
Both body and mind are not at their
best when the New Year finally comes around and you start working out and
dieting, you have spent the last three months on a food train with no brakes
and it’s been going downhill seriously out of control! But, it doesn’t have to
be quite this bad.
Here’s a few
options that might make the build up to the New Year a little easier for you.
yourself to one bag of candy to hand out to the kids and don’t buy it weeks in
advance, make sure it’s all gone on the night, with nothing left over you won’t
be tempted to be snacking on that junk.
Ham instead of the usual Turkey, you’ll probably feel less tired afterwards,
make yourself walk around the block after your meal. Don’t buy such a big Turkey or Ham, just one
big enough for the day itself will be sufficient.
if you followed the above advice you won’t be quite so out of control by this
stage. Limit yourself to a few parties, you don’t need to be drinking and
eating every night in excess. Put the brakes on a little here, you can still
enjoy yourself but don’t push it to the point of ruining your New Year’s
resolution. Remember? You’re soon going to be exercising and dieting. Don’t
fall into that trap of being so out of shape that your mind talks you out of it
Bottom line is, the whole thing is a mind battle! Your mind can be both your best friend and your worst enemy when it comes to diet and exercise!
So, after reading this can you relate to this story? If not I bet you know many people this could be about. Have you personally fallen into this trap or did you successfully get to the New Year without suffering the big 3?
Never an easy choice, but diet can make or break your fitness goals!
Now far be it from me to be telling people what they should be spending their money on, but when it comes to eating habits there seems to be so many excuses as to why people don’t eat healthy, again it can be a mind game, you are happy to fool yourself on a daily basis by making any excuse to continually eat junk and our old friends Mr. Positive and Mr. Negative are around to help out, or not as the case may be.
As you prepare to get ready for work, you have already
happily talked yourself out of eating a healthy breakfast-Good news for Mr.
Negative as he hasn’t even had to talk you into it yet, you’re making his job
so easy!-but now it’s time to make a healthy lunch to take with you, after all
you made the effort to buy healthy food at the grocery store at the
As you are
about to open the fridge door you are suddenly stopped dead in your tracks, our
old friend Mr. Negative appears in your mind saying “Why go to the trouble of making something healthy? It’s easier to pick
something up on the way to work” that’s true you think, yes I’ll do that
instead. Mr. positive responds immediately “Yes
and if you do that you’ll be buying junk that will make you feel tired all day,
make something healthy instead and be energized all day”
Still stood there with your hand on the fridge door you are
now thinking better and about to make something healthy, or are you? “Remember, you need something for breakfast
and lunch, you don’t have time to make anything healthy now, it’s too late,
just grab some junk at the drive-thru this morning, you don’t even have to get
out of the car!” says Mr. Negative. You like the sounds of that option as
Mr. Positive snaps you out of it yet again “Really? That’s just lazy, if you stand there much longer
listening to his nonsense it will be too late, now make something healthy while
you still do have time!”
reminds you “Don’t listen to him.
Remember, you made something healthy for work last week, eat some junk today
instead, eating healthy every day is boring!” Just as you are agreeing Mr.
Positive also reminds you “Yes, that’s
true, you did make something healthy for work last week and it’s still in the
fridge at work from last week probably ruined by now! And just how would you
know eating healthy is boring every day? You never do it!”
finally step away from the fridge Mr. Negative assures you that you’re doing
the right thing by listening to him this morning “That’s right! Just think how much money you’re saving by not eating
healthy, it’s just too expensive compared to the few dollars you spend every
day on junk food” Yes that’s true, must save money you’re thinking. “Really? You can’t afford to eat healthy?
But you can afford to eat junk every day! Are you sure? Think about that for a
moment” replies Mr. Positive.
Sadly, when it comes to food choices Mr. Negative wins the
battle again this morning as you finally step away from the fridge and drive off
to work without anything healthy to eat again. This is becoming a daily mind
battle you are losing badly! Mr. Positive will try to talk sense to you again
tomorrow, but for today he knows you’re a lost cause. You won’t listen to sense
so why should he hang around any longer today? He`s moved on to try to help
someone else today. Mr. Negative has total control over you for the rest of the
day now and it’s all downhill from here, you just don’t realize that yet or
just don’t want to.
On the way to eat your junk food breakfast you stop at a gas
station to pick up one of those awful energy drinks, that’s around $3 and with
no thought behind what you’re doing this also has become another daily habit
that you can’t live without these days, you drink it down fast to get the buzz
from the caffeine and sugar that it`s loaded with. Basically its liquid sugar!
What a great way to start your day…or so you think.
Next stop is your all too familiar diner where you eat a
large fried breakfast, with coffee of course, several cups. You just spent $12
but that’s ok, you leave feeling very full, content and high as a kite with all
the sugar and caffeine now overloading your body, never mind your arteries are
now blocked a little more than they were yesterday, and the fact you are that
much closer to having a heart attack or stroke doesn’t enter your mind, why
should it? You feel so good to even waste your time thinking about such things,
those kind of things happen to other people, not you…right?
By the time you have got to work and started whatever job
you’re doing that good feeling has quickly been replaced by a not so good
feeling. You have already crashed leaving yourself feeling tired, lazy and all
around lethargic. Time for more caffeine! Like a real genuine friend that never
fails you, eventually, it brings you to life one more time after a slow start
to your day. Sound familiar? You were like this yesterday and the day before
and the day before that and so on. Your mind doesn’t need to question any of
this as sadly this has become your average day.
It`s now lunch time, you’re feeling very hungry now, the
healthy lunch you made last week is still in the fridge as you walk straight
past it and no doubt is well and truly ruined by now, the maggots will
eventually enjoy it though and be thankful you left it for them. You don’t
throw it away just yet because just knowing it’s there gives your mind a false
feeling of comfort actually knowing you did make the effort even though you
know you will never eat it. Once again, you are letting your mind control and
But for now your mind is focused on the $15 pizza you
ordered an hour ago and as ever has been delivered with perfect timing for your
lunch break, they know you well so are never late delivering as you’ve become
such a good customer. You ordered an extra-large pizza knowing what you don’t
eat now you can take home with you and eat for dinner, how smart! You’ve
already got dinner covered.
eat half the extra-large pizza for lunch and save the rest for dinner tonight.
The rest of your working day is spent trying to stay awake as all you want to
do is sleep! More coffee sees you through till it’s time to head home. Your
mind is in such a fog with the carbs, calories, caffeine and sugar there’s no
concern about the damage you are doing to yourself or indeed your wallet,
you’re only halfway through the day and you’ve already spent $30! That’s not even including the several sodas you’ll buy
at $1 each throughout the day!
You eat the other half of pizza for dinner, then settle down
for the night watching TV. You know a walk around the block would be a good
idea but your mind has already talked you out of that, you can do that tomorrow
right? Well, you know you won’t but it’s a nice thought anyway. You are leading
such a sedentary lifestyle these days that the thought of any exercise makes
you think you actually did it!
You are oblivious to the fact your waist line is expanding
at an alarming rate as you have bought bigger pants three times already this
year! Why bother spending months exercising when you can buy bigger pants to
instantly mask the problem. Your mind is on overdrive fooling yourself into
thinking everything will be fine.
Never mind the fact you see the doctor more regularly these
days and are spending more and more money on medication, the doctor has become
your number one enemy as all he wants to talk about is exercise and diet after
telling you how much more weight you have gained since you last saw him. Not
those two terrible words again you think. Your mind has you thinking the doctor
is old fashioned and living in an outdated world from the past, after all, he’s
twice your age, the fact he’s twice as healthy as yourself is something your
mind can’t even begin to comprehend. All his health warnings go in one ear and
out of the other. Your job provides good health insurance so your mind has you
already fooled that you don’t really spend that much at all.
He keeps telling you that you must go on a diet and lose
50lb, but doesn’t he realize you’ve tried every diet under the sun and none of
them work, right? Or so your mind has you convinced, but you know deep down in
your heart you haven’t tried any of them long enough to feel or see any
difference, but once again your mind has overruled everything. Bottom line is
there isn’t a diet that allows you to carry on eating like you have been doing
and lose 50lb in weight, not possible. It requires discipline, motivation and desire,
but thanks to your negative state of mind that’s three things you simply don’t
possess. Without you even realizing, your mind has now become your worst enemy.
So, what’s next? A possible heart attack or stroke, or maybe
you’ll get one of those weight loss surgeries before those two things actually
become a possibility. Either way, unless you change your lifestyle the future
is not looking very bright at all! You already have diabetes, high blood
pressure and high cholesterol and have had them for years now but the alarm
bells never started ringing about these things. After all, you’re in your
mid-forties, it’s what happens at this age, part of getting older, right?
are many people will identify with this last story, so if you feel that you
just read about yourself let’s see what we can do in the way of helping, after
all, this book isn’t just about pointing out how the mind can work against you,
it’s also intended to offer some solutions and helpful advice to hopefully get
you back on the right track and be enjoying a much healthier lifestyle. The
following is a list of subjects we will cover
in more detail…
Eating healthy is not too expensive!
Prepare your healthy meals in advance
Don’t keep junk in the house
When it comes to weight loss small steps first
Avoid jumping on the scales every day
Loose clothes are a good sign of success
Weight loss surgery isn’t the answer!
1) First let’s expose this myth about eating healthy being too
expensive, can you honestly say that’s true? Or is it just another excuse your
mind has come up with because you don’t want to give up your beloved junk food?
So, let’s take our friend in the story as an example, he eats junk every day
for breakfast, lunch and dinner totaling $30 per day, in reality it’s probably
way more than that, but we`ll stick with that example to give you an idea of
the kind of money you’re probably spending here.
use workdays as our example, but if you’re eating junk all week there’s
certainly very little chance you’ll be eating healthy at weekends, after all,
there is a pattern to your eating habits here, and here is the pattern spread
out over a week and then a month.
5 workdays per week comes to $150 per week!
20 workdays per month comes to $600 per month!
Are you shocked? Is your mind even letting you comprehend this? Apart from consuming way too many calories this is how fast your daily habit of junk is mounting up costing you a small fortune! The bottom line…eating healthy is not too expensive but eating junk every day most certainly is!
2) It doesn’t have to be this way, for a fraction of the $150 you are spending on junk every week try buying healthy food such as chicken, fish, fresh fruit and veg. Prepare your meals for the week ahead on Sunday and make this a special event that you set aside some time for, divide them up into individual containers labelled for each day of the week, basically, having your food pre-made will help keep your mind from constantly thinking of junk food. If you have the food available in the fridge, it’s already there so that’s one less thing to be thinking about as you’re rushing around getting ready for work in a morning.
3) Take notice of what kind of snacks you have readily available around the house, if you have things like cookies and chips get rid of them! Replace them with healthy snacks like fruit, I know this doesn’t sound good in the slightest at the moment but this has to be a lifestyle change, if you don’t have these bad things in the house in the first place then that’s one less temptation for your mind. Think about it, how many times do you just sit in front of the TV at night snacking on junk food? It’s not that you’re really hungry, it’s just simply that it’s there and you don’t even realize that you’re doing it. So get rid of those bad junk food items around the house.
4) When it comes to losing weight through diet, let’s use our mind in a positive way. The guy in the story needs to lose 50lb. You already know this isn’t going to happen overnight, in fact it takes quite a few months to achieve this, or even a year or more and that’s why many people fail before they’ve really started because their minds simply can’t comprehend losing that much weight. So, try this
little mind trick, instead of focusing on the whole
50lb split it up into smaller obtainable goals such as 5lb at a time. Like the old saying goes `don’t run before you can walk` in other words small steps at a time, that way each time you actually lose 5lb it will give you a sense of achievement and help keep you focused and motivated and all the time you are getting closer and closer to your overall target. So you can see from this example you really can switch your mind set from negative to positive by using this little mind trick and helping yourself reach your overall weight loss goal.
5) When it comes to losing weight one of your worst enemies can be the weighing scales, that is, if you use them too often. So try to avoid jumping on them every day because your weight can vary from day to day, that’s normal, but a little too much sodium one day can reflect in a negative manner on the scales, also take into consideration the amount of water you have drank throughout the day as that too can make for a not so favorable reading.
That is why you should only weigh yourself first thing in the morning when you first get up for the truest reading. If you fall into that trap of weighing yourself every day or at night you’ll soon get discouraged and lose motivation to carry on with your diet as there’s nothing worse for your mind than to see no loss or even an increase in your weight when you know you are following a structured diet seriously. Try weighing once a week, you might find your readings to be much more pleasing that way and consistently showing a loss keeping you focused and motivated.
6) Don’t forget the fact that if you’re working out with weights you will possibly encounter one of the most common problems, that being your pant/dress size is going down but not your weight. So many people get frustrated with this and think their efforts are for nothing. You are simply replacing body fat with muscle mass, you will hear so many people say muscle weighs heavier than fat, not true! That is a huge misconception, look at it this way, which weighs more 5lb of feathers or 5lb of iron?
it before you instantly say iron, 5lb of any two items is the
same weight but it’s the volume that’s different, so 5lb of muscle mass is much
smaller in size than 5lb of body fat, so hopefully that example helps you
understand why you might be losing inches but not weight. It’s a perfectly
normal transformation process and nothing to let your mind get negative about,
but as we know when you allow your mind to become obsessed with losing weight
you quite often don’t even see the progress you are really making.
The fact you are dropping pant/dress sizes is a huge achievement you can be proud of, so let your clothes tell you how good you are doing rather than the scales. Once again, it’s all about trying to keep your mind positive, when you master that then you’ll be motivated and focused and well on the way to success.
7) Weight loss surgery isn’t the answer to your problems, this really is the very last resort when all else has failed and it’s a matter of life and death, not taken as a short cut or easy way out of exercising and dieting. The problem with this is simply that it won’t change how your mind thinks about food and basically your mind has got you in this situation to start with by showing no control over what you’re eating so why should that mind set change because you have weight loss surgery? It won’t! To expand my knowledge on this worrying subject I arranged a visit with a local Doctor who specializes in obesity. Doctor Roberts gives me a very interesting and rewarding interview.
He tells me
that most people who come to him are looking for the easy option rather than
actually even trying a healthy diet or exercising. He also tells me he only
believes in this kind of surgery when all else has failed and it’s a matter of
life and death to the person concerned.
Doctor Roberts will even agree to consider any weight loss surgery he advises
and recommends certain steps to try to avoid this. Doctor
Roberts believes weight loss surgery isn’t the answer for the average person
who is looking for a quick fix, simply because he doesn’t believe it changes
the way people think about food. He says people must train themselves to realize
they don’t need to be eating all day long.
try to make them understand the importance of diet and exercise, and that they
really need to consult with a nutritionist and personal trainer who can both
help them without resorting to surgery. I believe as a country the United
States is literally eating itself to death with no signs of this ending anytime
soon. We must stop people from seeing food as their comfort cushion, like the
old saying goes “Eat to live, but not live to eat” says a very concerned Doctor
gives the patient a three month time frame in which to show they are serious
about trying to lose weight by recommending a structured diet in which time
hopefully they can change their way of thinking, sadly he went on to explain
only around 30% follow this, he says everyone seems to have some kind of
comfort food or drink that they aren’t willing to cut out, such as chocolate,
fried food, beer and wine etc. so basically they have defeated themselves
before they even got started.
Basically, you have to sacrifice certain things if you truly want to see a change for the better, just remember though, weight loss surgery should be the very last option when all else has failed.
8) Thyroid issues, if you can honestly say that you’ve tried exercising and dieting and really gone about it correctly and not just half-heartedly and yet you still have had no results this could be one more thing that’s stopping you from achieving any results where weight loss is concerned. Ask your doctor to check your thyroid, better still, have it checked before you start any exercise and diet program, it could save a lot of wasted time and effort.
Have you personally struggled with preferring junk food over healthy food and can honestly say it slowed down your fitness progress? If so, how did you conquer this, or are you still struggling with this problem?