Of course it`s my fault you’re getting heavier!

Today`s blog takes another look at many client`s inability to follow a healthy diet, but worse than that refusing to accept responsibility for doing so.

Quite often as a trainer, you will be the one that clients blame for not getting results, especially it seems regarding weight loss. Nothing to do with the fact they don’t want to be accountable for what they’re putting into their mouths of course! No, that would be too simple.

Any excuse is better than facing the truth, such as they believe you aren’t training them correctly. Funny thing is, if they know better than you why are they paying you or any trainer good money to get in shape? Surely, they could do it themselves and save a ton of money. After all, this isn’t a cheap service so why waste money on something you aren’t going to take seriously?

Get real people! You are paying a personal trainer to help you, but you won’t allow yourself to be helped by constantly eating bad food, you don’t have to be a brain surgeon to figure that one out!

My client with this issue

One such issue arose when I trained Susan, she had contacted me wanting to lose weight but claiming she’d had 6 trainers over the last year but never got any results from any of them, if anything she`d gained weight!

Now that’s either some seriously bad trainers, or a client that won’t do their part out of the gym by controlling what they’re eating, with the chances of hiring 6 bad trainers back to back being very remote, I quickly figured out which reason it was, and equally as quickly figured she wasn’t going to be an easy client to work with.

She was pleasant enough, but obviously had a love of unhealthy food. We worked out early Monday morning, and she would be telling me of how her weekend consisted of basically drinking beer and eating crappy food! Now, I warned her don’t expect results from this if you’re going to keep eating and drinking in that manner, she said she understood. I wasn’t convinced in the slightest.

All was going well, she seemed to enjoy the workouts but when she stepped on the scales it was time for a reality check, she`d gained 5lb since the last weigh in 2 weeks before. Then of course it’s time to blame the trainer “I think you’re making me lift weights that are too heavy, I told you I didn’t want to bulk up! We need to change the training program.” she said like she’s suddenly become an expert in personal training.

One thing I absolutely will not tolerate is having someone with no experience telling me I’m doing my job wrong! Delicate situation to handle though, on one hand I want to tell her she’s stupid and to get lost! On the other hand, this is a business so need to keep the money coming in. So, I very politely reminded her of what she`d been telling me regarding what she`d been eating, and it wasn’t healthy food by any means. Also explained to her to bulk someone up isn’t as easy as she’s thinking it was, that would require a very different training program than the one she was doing with me.

This is going nowhere!

It became a regular battle every time she weighed in, unable to accept responsibility herself she would blame me for not training her correctly, and also reminding me of the thousands of dollars she had invested in my service.

Realizing the sessions were over I figured it’s time to put her in her place once and for all! I reminded her of the diet she was supposed to be on, but instead chose to eat crap food! As for the thousands of dollars, I told her she may as well have donated it to McDonalds! Which is basically what she did anyway.

She quit claiming she was going to find another trainer, one who knew what they were doing! Good luck on that. It was a relief when she walked out of the gym for the last time. So, I guess I became the 7th bad trainer Susan had hired in a year. Oh well, I can live with that!

Any trainers relate to this story? Where you’re trying to help someone then get it thrown back in your face with the reason that you’re not doing your job correctly. I would imagine quite a few!

Author: selfdefensespecialist

I`m Nigel Taylor – originally from England – owner of The Backyard Gym in Round Rock Texas. We specialize in personal training, kickboxing cardio and self-defense. With over 25 years experience as a personal trainer, I know what works! From weight loss to bulking up to toning up, I can help you get your desired look and achieve your fitness goals. I can also offer you the privacy of a 100% private personal training studio in which to enjoy and get the most out of your workouts.